Sassy Grief - is there such a thing?
Jeez. When we get run over by the loss and grief truck, life can feel far from sassy.
Sorrow fills us from under our hat right down to the big toe in our boots. Ever crevice of our skin, bones, muscles, arteries and heart can feel like a sack full of sadness. And life with its curveball can now feel like a long-death-procession of feeling brutally smacked over the head. Every waking move, decision, action…. can feel hard.
So how could grief possibly be sassy? And how could life post-such-tremendous devastation, feel like an opportunity worth taking?
Because loss brings us to our knees of choice. Sorrow, bitterness, guilt and longing forever, or a conscious choice to embrace the newly-broadened emotional spectrum, body sensations you’ve never before sensed, soul-questioning you’ve never pursued answers for to this depth and the opportunity for you to find your voice where in the past you’ve hidden behind safe curtains.
Bold Women Speak gives names to these experiences. I sometimes call them archetypes or foundations – things that have personally kept me alive and out of “sorrow-ville – far sooner rather than too late And in my experience of numerous personal moments of loss and grief, these have been my saving graces and sassy-building strategies. Head to www.boldwomenspeak.com homepage to hear my interview and the 5 foundations audios.
The Silent Survivor – As much as you may feel like you’re the only one on the planet suffering, this is not the case. Loss is a human experience that can actually bring us more into connection with our spirit than ever before and guide us to a sisterhood or brotherhood of other souls who too have felt that depth of grief that goes down to their boots. They’ve survived and so have you. Job is to not just survive, but sassy up through those connections. Get more real. Be more authentic. Speak with my soul.
The Awakening Woman (or man) – Viscerally grief heightens all the “feels” in our body – aches, pains, throbbing, intensity…. And equally we can access sensations within our bodies which show us we’re definitely alive. Why would we not want that? We’ve suddenly become more human than numbed-out rats on the treadmill.
The Untamed Voice – Wowsa, there’s so much to be said when we’re in grief, but in the early days especially, it’s easy to be silenced or to lose our ability to put words to our experience. Consider however how many musicians, poets and creatives have felt the stirrings of their soul spill out in words and lyrics? Now has grief asked you to speak more of your truth, your needs, your longings….Your expressive repertoire definitely has the opportunity to grow.
And the Story Weaver. Here is a chance for you to flip your narrative from life-long suffering (a choice in my books) or to something sassier which makes life (while grieving) far more tolerable. Take for example the loss of my grandbaby at 10 days old. If you were to hear the beauty of that story, you’d find it in the Love Section of the local library.
So sorrow or sass? I believe it’s a choice.
Listen to the audios on www.boldwomenspeak.com and let me know what resonates.
